Life Lessons: Derek Sivers
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Derek Sivers: How to like people
1. Assume it’s their last day. Everyone talks about living like it’s your last day on earth. Instead, to appreciate someone, live like it’s their last day on earth. Treat them accordingly. Try to fulfill their dreams for the day. Really listen to them. Learn from them.
2. Be who you’d be when alone. You could live in a crowd, pleasing only others. You could live in solitude, pleasing only yourself. But ideally, when in a crowd, be the same person you’d be when alone.
3. Assume men and women are the same. Men think women are so different from them. Women think men are so different from them. But the differences among men and differences among women are far greater than the differences between men and women. So counteract your tendency to exaggerate the differences. Assume men and women are the same.
4. Always make new friends. As you grow and change, old friends and family will be unintentionally invested in maintaining you as you were before. Let go of people that don’t welcome and encourage your change.
5. Avoid harming the relationship. For long-term relationship success, it’s more effective than seeking the positive.
6. Act calm and kind. Regardless of how you feel.
7. Don’t try to change them. ... unless they asked you to. Don’t teach a lesson. Stop trying to change people who don’t think they have a problem.
8. Find wisdom in your opponents. Really engage those who think opposite of you. You already know the ideas common on your own side.
9. Purge the vampires. Get rid of people that drain you, that don’t make you feel good about yourself. They make you hate all people.
Derek Sivers: How to thrive in an unknowable future
1. Prepare for the worst.
Since you have no idea what the future may bring, be open to the best and the worst. But the best case scenario doesn’t need your preparation or your attention. So mentally and financially prepare for the worst case, instead. Like insurance, don’t obsess on it. Just prepare, then carry on appreciating the good times.
2. Expect disaster.
Every biography of a successful person has that line, “And then, things took a turn for the worse.” Fully expect that disaster to come to you at any time. Completely assume it’s going to happen, and make your plans accordingly. Not just money, but health, family, freedom. Expect it all to disappear. Besides, you appreciate things more when you know this may be your last time seeing them.
3. Own as little as possible.
Depend on even less. The less you own, the less you’re affected by disaster.
4. Choose opportunity, not loyalty.
Have no loyalty to location, corporation, or your past public statements. Be an absolute opportunist, doing whatever is best for the future in the current situation, unbound by the past. Have loyalty for only your most important human relationships.
5. Choose the plan with the most options.
The best plan is the one that lets you change your plans. (Example: renting a house is buying the option to move at any time without losing money in a changing market.)
6. Avoid planning.
For maximum options, don’t plan at all. Since you have no idea how the situation or your mood may change in the future, wait until the last moment to make each decision.